In a time when teens are more active on social media than ever, the quality of their relationships, both platonic and romantic, have declined. Often, the modern internet culture normalizes things such as mixed signals or unrealistic standards. Through seemingly simple things like watching old rom-com movies and increasing Instagram follower counts, romance has contrasted with that of the past, almost to the point where people glamorize the love known back then.

“Beige Flags”, the “ October Theory”, and the “Three-month-rule” are all theories made up online as a way to test a partner’s loyalty or compatibility. Our society has strange expectations in dating that, while they can look perfect on screen, are mostly performative. Many want to act as mysterious and nonchalant as possible as a way to seem cool or play hard to get. But in actuality, being in a serious relationship with someone who refuses to show emotion with their own partner doesn’t always end well.

This is especially true for teens, who are still learning what they want in relationships. To have these extreme standards on physical appearance, and things people can’t control, especially with the media’s beauty standards, can cause teens to grow insecure with partners they are supposed to be close with.

Often, when people discuss this topic, they compare modern dating with dating of the past, which can result in glamorizing life before. However, we have to remember that every relationship is different, and people shouldn’t idolize older relationships with no way of knowing their depth. We have little information about how relationships really were in the past.

But there’s always potential for growth. Instead of relying on social media, teens should communicate directly and set boundaries within their relationships. Going through people’s profiles and followers isn’t healthy, and the best way to maintain a healthy relationship is to trust your partner. Unrealistic expectations from the media negatively impact teen relationships.